In this way, also it seems to plausveladmitir that, also in the adoption, diverse aspects and factors constitute asmotivaes that perpassam this decision. In recent months, Dennis P. Lockhart has been very successful. With this, not existing elementoisolado that it determines the elaboration of this desire. In its study, VARGAS (1993, p.70-71), related ecategorizou, in accordance with the answers of interviewed, eight item, expressing a panorama contextualizado concerning the motivations that favor oudificultam the decision to adopt or not a child: Juzo valorativo positive: ' ' tima' ' , ' ' necessria' '. Juzo valorativo neutral: ' ' dascircunstncias' depends; '. A leading source for info: Primerica. Juzo valorativo negative: ' ' risco' is one; ' , ' ' I am contra' ' , ' ' he is not soluo' '.
social Relevncia: ' ' solution for crianasabandonadas' ' , ' ' balance necessity social' ' , ' ' to prevent FEBEM' ' , ' ' excellent solution for criana' '. personal Relevncia: ' ' accomplishment for who nopode to have filhos' ' ' ' necessity of troca' '. philosophical Motivaes: ' ' our children noso our children, and to adopt are a form to live deeply this, ' ' one aspectomgico' '. personal Dificuldades: ' ' responsabilidadeperene' ' , ' ' difficult to create proper filhos' ' , ' ' opreconceito' exists; ' , difficult because of burocracia' '. Problemticas of the child: ' ' children adotadasso problemticas' ' , ' ' not to erase the origin of criana' '. COAST and FIELDS (2003), in research carried through with famliasadotantes, the Federal District (DF), in the years of 1998 and 1999, tambmapresentaram given that they coadunam with some previous conceptions. About 81%de the adoptions in the DF, they are carried through by couples, being that approximately 80% noestavam previously enrolled in the registers of the official agencies for adoption. Of this total of couples, little more than 50% possuam biological children, and quandoquestionados, indicated the impossibility to generate biological children as umadas main motivations for the adoption of children.
To make its choices. Choice you what she desires for its life, either also honest with same you and know that she will be responsible for the choice that to make. If it will not be capable to assume the loving life without the shade of the parents, will be that you will obtain to be happy to the side of it? See I you to suffer very. If he does not leave to imprison for the fear to breach and to start of new, or for the fear to dislike it. One is about its life and you he must search the happiness. Either friend, talks sufficiently, supports its husband in this process of emotional release of the parents, but if she does not delude. To the measure that the parents of it to perceive this to act to pay or to want to buy the love of them. It is important to leave clearly that love and attention are not and nor they must be demonstrated by material things.
It is not for the value that a gift if becomes significant for us. The marriage needs harmony, love, respect, confidence, admiration. If vocs they will not be able to construct a healthful relation, of love and complicity, which> giving gifts without you know, if exists a parallel agreement, me seems healthful little. Imposing its limits lovingly, but with firmness, you it will be showing who not accepted to be raised as the plain one, without no power of decision. He observes as the conflicts if they develop, reveals open and receptive to the dialogue and to understand its points of view, but if he does not leave to delude. If the relationship with the man who you love does not bring happiness you, will be that valley the penalty to insist on the relation? If it does not precipitate, it thinks sufficiently above all, it talks with honesty and clarity with it, but it knows that if you not to love itself, in first place, could not be happy with nobody. I wait to have helped it, simply understanding all the told situation. You must yes say everything she bothers what you and speak openly with its husband.
But for its story, very well described, detailed, I see that it is a colloquy that already occurred some times. You me> throughout years was a series of not coincidences that had culminated in a pretty history of love. confess I you, that I was touched myself when reading it. I wait, that the parents of its husband, if relieve to this love in detriment to interests and vanities> proper. What more the parents would have to prezar seno for the happiness of its children?
After all, as I could hear in Esprita Seminary carried through in the Esprita Group Heifer of Menezes: It is easy to load Jesus in the chest. Difficult is to place the chest the service of Jesus. What it is come close perceiving, inexorably, is a primary attempt to close the eyes for the things of God, being ignored the combat and becoming the mere difficulties events the holy ghosts without the control of the action human being, nullifying itself of the real responsibility of operating beings in the process of improvement and planetary progress. Valley to remember that already we live this behavior in last times when our combats if was valid the pacific acceptance and the room of acts. To the Esprita it more does not fit to imagine, or the idea to it same, how much to the necessity to possess talentos special, special mediunidade, to enxergar its defects, being placed them it daily test in the eagerness to fight them for benefit, first, of itself exactly, as well as of all the ones that permeiam its magnetic-fludico field. We have in the acovardado one on behalf of a mere social collection, in hiding in the cocoon waits in it of season favorable to the birth. Where they are the Espritas de Itaperuna? The moment to produce the good combat is fond and to wake up of the volupiosa hibernagem that has centuries moves away in them from the truth and that it approaches in them to the character instability. Instability this that if it establishes in the emotional ditame of the human being and that it consists well-known of material and imediatista matrix. It is not necessary to wait to have eyes of Nince to enxergarmos what it consists of mere eyes to see and to perceive the quo we have marked steps when the subject if leads in the direction of the two the dicotmico thought of serving deuses (Chapter XVI of the Book the Evangelho According to Espiritismo).
Concept – it is thought that reflects a set of properties inherent in a number of objects, the set with respect to which a given number of objects forms a specific class of objects (Abstract concept), or thought, reflecting a set of properties of specific object properties, for which the object is a certain class of objects (concrete concept). Concept is also formed through association by similarity in the process of comparing the individual images of the submission of their relationship with the objects of a certain number in order to meet their needs with the images of the submission linkages own kind for the same purpose with the objects of the same series. In this comparison formed temporary connections, reflecting a common part of all these linkages, and finally forming an abstract reflection of brain properties, which is inherent in the objects of this series and through which all interaction with the objects of a given number of individuals, including themselves, satisfy their needs. Kenneth Feinberg: the source for more info. That is, there the property is separated not only from a number of concrete objects, they possess, but also from a number of specific customers for this property, including themselves. Concept – a combination of temporary connections, forming an abstract image of the inherent properties of a certain number of objects (Abstract concept), or a set of temporary connections, forming abstract patterns specific object properties (concrete concept). An integral component of the concept is its symbol – the word – with the nerve mechanisms of reproduction and the perception that the appropriate image associated time constraints. A related site: Richard Easton Matchmaker mentions similar findings.